Ann E. Lumry, Ph.D., L. P.


Licensed Psychologist, Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and Consultant, Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, and member of the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy.





  • 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples, and groups.

  • Completed Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at the University of Minnesota in l978.

  • Private practice in affiliation with Psychological Associates in St.Paul, Minnesota since l984

Practice Specialties

Relationship Therapy

  • As a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist since l994 achieving Advanced Clinician Status, I have been trained in the therapeutic approach described by Harville Hendrix in his book Getting the Love You Want.

  • My specialty is in helping people restore and create conscious, intentional relationships. Much of my practice is focused on working with couples in crisis or seeking deeper intimacy and enrichment. I also work with couples considering committed partnership and marriage or who are newly wed

  • Certified as an Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in 2009. EFT, a researched-based approach developed by Susan Johnson. This rigorous training has expanded my effectiveness in helping couples shift from negative, stuck cycles to more positive and connecting patterns of interaction. A tenant of EFT, supported by research, is that emotionally fulfilling relationships are integral components of mental and physical health. In 2013 I became a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapy Consultant, providing consultation to therapists working towards becoming proficient in this approach.

Individual Therapy

  • I continue to work with individuals to deal with relationship issues, family of origin issues, life transitions, losses, depression, anxiety, chronic emotional or physical illness and stress reactions. Individual clients often seek help to gain awareness of their own patterns that have led to unsuccessful relationships.

Treatment Orientation

  • I have had advanced training in psychotherapy, allowing me to draw from many therapeutic models, blending psychodynamic, object relations, and self psychology with family systems, cognitive behavioral, mindfulness, emotionally focused and psychoeducational approaches as is helpful to an individual's and a couples' situation. I believe that the integrative approach can be the most comprehensive and hence the most effective.

  • In working with couples, I see myself as part educator and coach as well as therapist. I help clients to understand that relationships go through predictable stages, to develop knowledge about themselves and their relationship, and to become equipped with tools, skills and processes that help transform relationships.

  • While the therapeutic approach is very 'here and now' oriented, I help people stay curious about what the unresolved issues from the past might be that are contributing to ongoing conflicts in the present. I have marveled at the power of a relationally oriented therapy in transforming relationships, but also in fostering deep individual healing and growth.

More Information:


Related web sites for more information about relationship resources Sites for articles about Imago Relationship Therapy and links to other web sites about relationships, divorce, parenting, stress management and mental health Additional sites of Imago Relationship Therapists which include resources for gay and lesbian couples. International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Site for research based information and assessment tools for couples and parents presented by John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Ruth Hayden, nationally known financial consultant, provides classes and books for couples and individuals. In her 'couples and money' class, she teaches a "workable partnership model of managing money." and Two centers that offer Jon Kabat-Zinn's  Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Program, also called Total Dynamic Living,  which teaches participants to intentionally cope with stress, pain, illness and the demands of everyday life. The Center for Nonviolent Communication: A global organization helping people connect compassionately with themselves and one another through Nonviolent Communication language. See more articles about talking peace at Site for resources about recovery including the work of Pia Mellody. Offering programs to help couples prepare for marriage and to enrich the marriage of those already married. Minnesota Association for Marriage and Family Therapists. American Association for Marriage and Family Therapists.



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